‘I threw a party when my stalker died and my friends think it’s distasteful’

‘I threw a party when my stalker died and my friends think it’s distasteful’

A woman who threw a party to celebrate the death of her stalker has been branded “distasteful”.

The woman says she organised a “deathday party” at her house with five of her closest friends after hearing about the man’s death.

However, after mentioning the party to a wider circle of friends, she has been left questioning “am I the a***hole” for toasting to her “Boogeyman” no longer being around.

She said on Reddit: “We had a fun party, it was mostly just an excuse to get some friends together and let loose, but a few things happened that I know people might find distasteful.

“We called it a ‘deathday party’ and toasted to that.”

The woman’s larger group of friend said her actions were “super distasteful” and called her “gross and vindictive to take joy in that”.

She added: “I feel like they would have a point if circumstances were different and this guy wasn’t like a literal Boogeyman in my life for some time.

The woman says she organised a “deathday party” at her house with five of her closest friends after hearing about the man’s death.
“But I feel like if anyone understood what that was like, they’d be partying it up too.”

The woman says the man harassed her at work before starting to “show up at random places” outside of work.

She said: “After a short while it became really clear it wasn’t a coincidence.

“It was pretty upsetting and scary, I ended up going to the cops about it, not feeling like they took it seriously.

“Then moving apartments and switching jobs and getting a new car and changing my usual places I’d go, just to put a stop to it.”

The woman says she would often leave a place if he were to show up, as he made her and her close friends feel “unsafe and scared”.

She added: “It had been over a year since he’d shown up where I was at, but I definitely still felt less safe in general.

“Then, we found out he had passed away, one of my friends saw an obituary online. It was really unexpected, he was young and healthy.

“My friends told me, worried I’d be having some complicated emotions about it. But honestly the only thing I felt about that news was a lot of relief.”

In response, one Reddit user said: “Know what? Not an a***hole. I was stalked and it wasn’t taken seriously.

“It greatly affected me and my family. Like our whole lives revolved around him. The person in question is now in prison (unrelated charges but won’t be out for a good 10 years but he’s old so might die in jail).

“The day he went to prison, I drank a whole bottle of champagne. When he dies, it’ll be two.”

Another responded: “I’m going to go no a*hole here. Mostly because, yes you are definitely not the ahole for celebrating your new freedom from constant vigilance and venting your frustration in humour. A lot of people don’t really understand the mental toll of having a stalker.”

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